Have your partner enter you with their penis or strap-on from behind. Stand up and drape the top half of your body over the surface.
How To Do It: You’ll need a surface that’s waist-high for this position, like a table or a high bed. Or, try bringing your legs into a cannonball position, Marin says, so your partner's body can move even closer to yours. How To Up The Domination Factor: Have your partner hold your hands above your head for even more intensity. You’ll really feel pinned down and powerless. Why It’s Hot: Since this position requires a lot of flexibility, it can be physically straining and vulnerable for you, especially since you’re at your partner's mercy to not bend you back too far. If that feels like too much of a strain on your legs, you can take them off their shoulders and hold them up in the air. Your legs will get pushed back towards your head, and from there your partner can enter you with their penis or strap-on. They should then lean forward, resting their weight on their hands. You can cross your legs, if that feels right, placing your left heel on their right shoulder and right heels on their left shoulder. Have your partner sit back on their heels while you lift your legs up and place your heels on their shoulders. How To Do It: Start off in missionary position. Below are nine expert-approved positions for being dominated that’ll be a great place to start.
But once that’s said, feel free to go forth and enjoy. Talk about what’s OK and what isn’t and make sure you and your partner agree. You’ll also want to get detailed consent before proceeding, Bisbey says. Since you’ll be bending yourself into positions that incorporate vulnerability - including ones that might make it difficult to communicate - this word or signal will let your partner know when it’s time to ease up or stop. First, it’ll be important to come up with a safe word or signal, says sex therapist Vanessa Marin. “Getting out of your ordinary roles brings mystery back to the relationship,” Bisbey says, “which adds to the excitement.”īefore diving right in and trying out dominant sex positions, however, there are a few things you’ll need to discuss. If you’re used to more traditional dynamics, fully giving into submission can feel fresh and new - something that’s perfect for couples who are looking to spice things up.
Likewise, dominance has its own joys from getting to direct all the action to taking care of a partner in new and interesting ways.” “Often, the submissive person receives lots of attention from the dominant person. Lori Beth Bisbey, a clinical psychologist and sex and intimacy coach, tells Bustle. “Submission can allow freedom because in handing over control, you can stay focused on receiving and the stress of decision-making is gone,” Dr.
It’s exciting to play around with the power dynamic of dominance and submission - not to mention, there’s something so hot about lying back while your partner takes full control. If you’re used to taking control during sex, it might be fun to switch things up on occasion and try out a few submissive positions, just to see how it feels.